![]() ![]() It’s difficult to know exactly what will happen during therapy and yet you may prefer to know that there are planned times to stop, review and check that you are going in the right direction and at the right speed. Finally, what kind of changes do you want to see or feel to know that the therapy is actually working for you? So, after you have jotted down some ideas from the above, ask your therapist about the shape or structure of your sessions.Safety is very important as you need your therapist to hold you through what could be some dark and upsetting times. Before committing to a session talk to few therapists until you find the one with whom you feel most comfortable, safe and believe you can trust. All the research says that it’s the relationship that matters. ![]() This can feel embarrassing, shaming and even painful when recounting actions or thoughts and yet as therapists we are trained to accept all that you say and provide positive help and guidance for you to achieve your goals. Although clients can often give away far more details about their situation than they think, it’s incredibly helpful for the therapist when you give as much honest information as you can. It is perhaps an obvious point and yet it’s worth saying that honesty about your thoughts, feelings and actions in the therapy is vital.To feel comfortable with the time issue you may need to set this alongside your thoughts about money and this will give you an idea about your measure of the value you hold of yourself. There are two measures here: how long are you prepared to devote to your therapy and how quickly will you accept change? For some people, and for some issues, change can happen quite quickly and for others it can take some time. Time is perhaps the most important feature of our lives.Is the cost affordable for you and is the cost worth what you want out of therapy? Link these thoughts to what you want to get out of therapy and measure them against this cost. Were these just for you? What did you get from buying them? How does the cost of your therapy compare to these items? Sometimes we can spend a lot of money on other people or buy things without thinking about the price or cost. Try this: make a list of the last four big spends that you made, more than just the every day-to-day items or events that you need. Money is always important, and yet it can be the most uncomfortable issue to think about.I ask my clients to jot down some ideas in preparation for our first session. It could be some skills in how to deal with arguments, relationships or decision making, or you may have a specific event in your life that is causing you distress that you want help to resolve. ‘confidence’, ‘peace’ or even ‘happiness’. Clearly you need to know something about what it is that you want out of therapy.After 25 years of working as a psychotherapist here is how I suggest you can prepare for that first session. ![]() It’s important to say that just as clients are individuals, so are therapists, and each will have their own way of starting therapy with you. In this blog three of our UKCP psychotherapists offer some helpful advice on where to start.Ĭongratulations on considering psychotherapy. Committing to psychotherapy can be daunting, but after reaching and scheduling your first session it can be really helpful to know what to expect and think about what you want to gain before you begin the psychotherapeutic journey. ![]()
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